tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post4774230966807620460..comments2023-05-28T11:14:17.686-04:00Comments on Classy Chaos: The Sensitive Child: Nature or Nurture?Buttermouthhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14137714608832600862noreply@blogger.comBlogger76125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-86426316663721173612008-07-14T16:00:00.001-04:002008-07-14T16:00:00.001-04:00I would just like to say that I am the 1st born in...I would just like to say that I am the 1st born in my family, and your son Jay reminds me of me. I am 27 and still sensitive to this day. It will be great for him when he becomes married. Very sweet sounding boy. <BR/><BR/>CourtneyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-45922414392325587792008-07-14T16:00:00.000-04:002008-07-14T16:00:00.000-04:00I would just like to say that I am the 1st born in...I would just like to say that I am the 1st born in my family, and your son Jay reminds me of me. I am 27 and still sensitive to this day. It will be great for him when he becomes married. Very sweet sounding boy. <BR/><BR/>CourtneyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-54856202026308197812008-04-07T09:44:00.000-04:002008-04-07T09:44:00.000-04:00I think "sensitive" is nature. After all, if it w...I think "sensitive" is nature. After all, if it were simply a matter of parenting, I wouldn't have seen the sensitivity in my son as a newborn. It'd have waited till later.<BR/><BR/>But the little parts of his personality he was born with? Those showed up right away. And I don't think it's bad. We're just trying to help him learn coping skills, which for his age means self-soothing (blankies, finger sucking, etc.). When he's older it'll mean something different.Becoming Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16196365719272632077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-10820683115746657122008-04-05T22:02:00.000-04:002008-04-05T22:02:00.000-04:00Nature...definately. I was a sensitive kid. Way ...Nature...definately. I was a sensitive kid. Way too sensitive. Embarassingly sensitive. Thank goodness I've managed to turn into a cranky bitch in my old age ;)LunaNikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13981677669711596784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-45270046146450303072008-04-05T09:23:00.000-04:002008-04-05T09:23:00.000-04:00I don't think it's bad that he's sensitive. Not b...I don't think it's bad that he's sensitive. Not bad at all. Boys don't always need to be rough and hard, right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-5722245334609649532008-04-04T14:12:00.000-04:002008-04-04T14:12:00.000-04:00Oh my goodness, this post brought tears to my eyes...Oh my goodness, this post brought tears to my eyes!<BR/><BR/>Julia is very, very sensitive - she sounds SO MUCH like Jay. I know she gets it from me but I have spent many a night worrying about it, wondering if I am showing too much, if I'm doing something wrong. It's so nice to read about your family, and that sometimes, people are more sensitive than others.mamatuliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02692442843330582571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-28620100885137165242008-04-04T10:36:00.000-04:002008-04-04T10:36:00.000-04:00Your little boy sounds like an incredible kiddo to...Your little boy sounds like an incredible kiddo to me! We need more children like him, empathy is a wonderful trait! I personally think that kids are born into this world with their personalities already in working order. Of course, how they are raised, where they are raised, etc., play into it all, but I think if a child is shy, or outgoing, sensitive or not, it's part of who they are. Great post OhMommy!<BR/><BR/>LizzyLizzy in the Burbshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11029788783380416676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-76269674350495890082008-04-03T23:14:00.000-04:002008-04-03T23:14:00.000-04:00Sensitive men/boys are the best! Your little man ...Sensitive men/boys are the best! Your little man will make a lady very happy someday :)Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08832401938006287380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-73134488739330825422008-04-03T23:11:00.000-04:002008-04-03T23:11:00.000-04:00My oldest is also sensitive. I'm so glad you poste...My oldest is also sensitive. I'm so glad you posted this. I wish I knew how to help my son share his feelings better. He has gotten in trouble at school a couple of times and he could have just explained what happened to the teacher, it wasn't his fault. <BR/><BR/>Sounds like your son's love language is quality time! That's great you figured out something that worked.raising4boyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08589032602889740091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-85655644754463037112008-04-03T22:46:00.000-04:002008-04-03T22:46:00.000-04:00Oh that is the sweetest thing ever! You are so ble...Oh that is the sweetest thing ever! You are so blessed to have 2 sensitive boys. I've never seen my hubby cry. But I do have the daughter that says "Good, when do you start?" *sigh*Momisodeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06752015177628948631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-70535094837752746832008-04-03T21:51:00.000-04:002008-04-03T21:51:00.000-04:00Sensitivity is a good thing, especially in men. Y...Sensitivity is a good thing, especially in men. Your hubs is lucky to have you; and your boy will make some lady very lucky someday too!Karen MEGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10834425321020756655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-51777441277883210882008-04-03T21:18:00.000-04:002008-04-03T21:18:00.000-04:00Sweetie, that big gorgeous heart of your son's als...Sweetie, that big gorgeous heart of your son's also comes from the fact that he has a mother who is a poet, who sees the human condition and cries, and laughs, and bleeds along with the people she touches. Yup. Jay is you, too. I think. His sensitivity, and your guiding arms, will lead him to true greatness someday. Of that, I'm sure.ConverseMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09964215682943025507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-5305904306225707232008-04-03T20:55:00.000-04:002008-04-03T20:55:00.000-04:00It is definitely nature, but so great that you rec...It is definitely nature, but so great that you recognize and value the trait, and that's where the nurture comes in. Have you read "The Highly Sensitive Child" by Dr. Elaine Aron? Her books have been an invaluable resource to me as a highly sensitive person. She talks about the trait as just that, a trait--not a good or a bad thing, but definitely something to be acknowledged and handled in a certain way. I'm reading the book on children now, and it's great, provides many things to think about from your child's perspective. My kids are so little yet and I'm not quite sure if either one or both are sensitive, but I'm looking out for it. Either way, it's been really helpful in my parenting. Thanks for writing this post!penelopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18227471329694179527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-67601284522272327612008-04-03T20:32:00.000-04:002008-04-03T20:32:00.000-04:00I love example #3! How sweet!I love example #3! How sweet!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09037928148778848386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-4693900596823818752008-04-03T20:25:00.000-04:002008-04-03T20:25:00.000-04:00What a sweet post! I think that men should be m...What a sweet post! I think that men should be more sensitive. He will make a wonderful husband someday.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01574439324085809271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-68488321978647140992008-04-03T20:12:00.000-04:002008-04-03T20:12:00.000-04:00My boy wanted to play football. He was the crier. ...My boy wanted to play football. He was the crier. He would tackle ANOTHER kid and then cry-not because he was he hurt but because he thought he had hurt the OTHER KID. I was always conflicted over that! :)NerdyRedneck Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08197976874612713015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-10280031609193500692008-04-03T19:42:00.000-04:002008-04-03T19:42:00.000-04:00I get gifts that are intended to be heirlooms when...I get gifts that are intended to be heirlooms when each of my children are born too. I doubt my daughters are going to insist I keep their rings like your sweet Jay did with the necklace.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05199941051691469813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-75495805818970468022008-04-03T17:20:00.000-04:002008-04-03T17:20:00.000-04:00Oh, poor hubby. Baby Whisperer said mine was high...Oh, poor hubby. Baby Whisperer said mine was highly sensitive, too. I wonder if it is partially being the first born?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-85837786672180922042008-04-03T17:08:00.000-04:002008-04-03T17:08:00.000-04:00Oh, I almost cried at the thought of your hubby ge...Oh, I almost cried at the thought of your hubby getting emotional over the puppy!! I love a senstive boy/man - they are rare!!!<BR/><BR/>Sorry about the puppy situation - I hope it all works out.<BR/><BR/>Have a good evening - see you soon. KellanKellanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07882991320065439298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-73954334964405630472008-04-03T16:37:00.000-04:002008-04-03T16:37:00.000-04:00Very sweet. I love seeing emotion in my man. I hat...Very sweet. I love seeing emotion in my man. I hate seeing whining in my boys, but I like emotion. My 6 year old Gavin gets SO excited at life and is not at all embarrassed or shy to show it. I LOVE IT because so many kids today are so busy trying to be cool, you wonder if they are alive!<BR/><BR/>KEEP BELIEVINGAngie @ KEEP BELIEVINGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00930977696454848345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-4702708912417653832008-04-03T16:31:00.001-04:002008-04-03T16:31:00.001-04:00Awww! That's just too cute!Awww! That's just too cute!MarĂahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11222253058280821035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-34437460363989491702008-04-03T16:31:00.000-04:002008-04-03T16:31:00.000-04:00wow! That neckalce story actually got my a little ...wow! That neckalce story actually got my a little choked up! Seriously! What a sweetie! Um...with a boy that sweet I wouldn't mind setting my lucy up for an arranged marriage! eh? ha ha :)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07843200092492177826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-57767464621008115292008-04-03T15:45:00.000-04:002008-04-03T15:45:00.000-04:00How wonderful! I think you have an excellent "sec...How wonderful! I think you have an excellent "secret". While you don't want a "cry baby", it's great that he's learning to use his words. That's probably part of why he cries, because he doesn't understand yet how to communicate his feelings since he's young. You're such a great mom! And yes, he will make a wonderful husband. I think I've only seen my hubby cry MAYBE 3 times in almost 7 years. Sometimes, I pray for him to let go and use HIS "words" and talk to me. you're teaching him a great thing, OhMommy! Love it!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12140468214545352325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-68108612305355729882008-04-03T15:24:00.000-04:002008-04-03T15:24:00.000-04:00I needed to read this today. I just blogged about ...I needed to read this today. I just blogged about my sensitive boy last week. I am at a loss at how to help him. He is exactly like your Jay. <BR/>Thank you for giving me another mothers perspective. None of my friends with boys have this issue. <BR/>I'll have to try your secret method and see if it helps.Autumnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08510723750496873429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5940227370112378709.post-64676158524922925882008-04-03T15:08:00.000-04:002008-04-03T15:08:00.000-04:00Talk about being sensitive!! I teared up at the p...Talk about being sensitive!! I teared up at the part where you told Jay you are going to give your necklace to his wife when they have their first baby......awww!! That just melts my heart!McMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14205694488371923701noreply@blogger.com